Monday, January 30, 2012

Cutting Corners in my Uncle's Home...

My uncle is a successful man in many ways, and has been called a benevolent leader (with some of the leadership self-imposed, as some might argue). Recently, he was roundly criticized for over-expenditure, indebtedness, and for living beyond his means. Of course, you and I well know that such a sorry state of affairs is rarely due to one person alone. Not surprising, therefore, that some of his errant children were accused as having encouraged their siblings to indulge in thoughtless splurging even when the latter couldn’t afford it, and as having enlightened their family members about the benefits of (in many cases, excessive) retail therapy. It is sad that due to a few bad eggs and several trusting souls, the larger family has recently had to suffer the pain of tightening their belts during trying times. I say ‘larger family’ because those (wealthy) few who squirrelled away their secret stashes continue to levitate from consumer nirvana at Saks, Nordstrom, Nieman Marcus, and other such (no doubt) enervating destinations.
I’m sure you all must know by now which uncle I refer to…of course, none other than that magnanimous relative from across the seven seas - Uncle Sam – who is dearly embraced by multitudes from across the globe hoping to be adopted by him one fine day. I don’t know if my uncle will continue his philanthropic activities in the near future as his family is already protesting his generosity…but really, one can’t blame his good intentions as much as one should criticize his family’s tendencies to max out his credit cards.
Somewhere down the line, I think my uncle’s family lost sight of some values and principles they’d lived by 50 years ago – of a good day’s work, of living within one’s means, saving for the future, of knowing that there is more to be gained from cooperation rather than opposition, and so on and so forth. Old-fashioned school stuff, some might scoff, but really, very central to any kind of proactive philosophy and change in strategy at any point of time, in any culture/ country/ situation. In the mad quest for profit and rapid growth, any commensurate rest for one’s body and soul has also been forgotten. And so it is that today, during the greatest recession since the Great Depression, millions of my uncle’s children are trying to cope with such challenges in day-to-day living that they’ve never really faced before, after having lived a cushy life in the last 50 years or so. Yet surprisingly, more of them have been reported as being ‘happy’ – perhaps the result of realizing, in the midst of leaner days, that the best things in life are free.
People continue to have children, and to learn from them that really, one can face hardships with adaptability, faith, laughter, and self-confidence. As Wordsworth said, the child is indeed the father of man, and one learns from children the benefits of seeing anything from a fresh, optimistic perspective. Of recovering quickly. That, in time, this too shall pass. In addition, the sheer natural beauty of the American landscape acts as a balm to calm our nerves from life’s frustrations and stresses. It has also been reported that there has been a surge in community service – by both the young and the retired, an increase in food drives, non-profits and thrift outfits such as Goodwill - proof of the observation that helping the needy is a great way to appreciate the value of one’s own (certainly more fortunate) situation. These little acts of kindness and selflessness themselves point to the hope that good sense and good character will ultimately prevail, and that a change is already underway in this Age of Aquarius.
Therefore, in celebration of this fulfilling turn towards mass introspection, self-evaluation, and re-assessment, here is a dish that rose like the phoenix from leftovers – not trying to discourage you from visiting my home here, but merely pointing out how the marrying of unwilling partners can still result in a cheerful, heartening magic, at a time when food wastage is not the order of the day. Enter: Pumpkin-Tandoori Mac N Cheese!
Having leftover roast pumpkin and spare twigs of tandoori chicken at hand, I decided to stretch both to maximum advantage to feed our family of four, twice. The one fulfilled the veggie part of the dish, and the other answered any protein cravings with its potent flavor. All that was needed was a convenient carbohydrate filler – and here my eye caught a 450gram bag of pasta (maccheroni elbows), that I promptly set upon.
While the pasta cooked, into a saucepan went 4 tablespoons of butter, leftover tandoori chicken fat with its runny red color, and ¼ cup of flour…briskly whisked over a low flame to form a roux base. Over that went 3 cups of milk (whatever you have at hand in your pantry – whole/ 2%/ almond/ soy) and 2 cups of pureed roast pumpkin chunks. More pureed pumpkin is fine as long as the roux doesn’t get too runny, and if there’s too little, well then just shove in a handful of peas or corn or some such creamy, fast cooking vegetable. I would even do some diced zucchini or mushrooms for bite and meatiness.
Having run out of nutmeg, I threw in a dash of all-spice, some salt to taste, and a few turns of freshly ground black pepper, whisking occasionally to prevent lumps and to arrive at a thick, smooth soup. I really didn’t have to add much more than that because the dripping from the tandoori chicken baking dish and the rosemary-tinted pumpkin contained enough kick to make up for any herb I might have had to scrounge for. I then dunked the cooked pasta into the sauce, added the last of the chicken (finely shredded), gave it a toss, and slid the whole into a baking dish, sprinkling over a handful or so of leftover shredded cheese. This was placed in a 350 degree F pre-heated oven, to cook and brown over for about 25 minutes.
The result was a full-bodied, creamy, nutty, filling comfort food that warmed one’s cockles on a cold winter evening, and was colored a visually appealing deep rich egg-yolk orange-yellow, as you can see for yourself:

Thursday, January 26, 2012

Maa Tujhe Salaam (Hindi: "I salute you, Mother")!

Every 26th of January (a national holiday in India), my mother would wake us kids up and hurry us about getting ready. At 7am sharp, the white Ambi with the swivelling red light on top would swing out of the gate, carrying us - the kids bleary-eyed, and my mother and the driver all spruced-up and absolutely imposing - and head for Marina Beach to do what the entire nation was doing (or probably not doing at that early hour - although indifference to one's motherland would be hard to believe in the India of the 1980's). Thus we joined our fellow Indians to salute our country on this great day.

We didn't know it then, and certainly didn't appreciate it then, but thanks to my mother, we were placed in VIP seats, with police security, in the chilly January morning, to view the Republic Day Parade. In the manner of almost all civil servants' children who followed their parents' regime at home, who were sent to the best schools and who were expected to 'perform' the right moves with almost military precision in different situations - social, academic, personal - we sat straightlaced in our rattan chairs, while the loudspeakers (that looked like 1950's relics, and indeed, so they may have been) screamed patriotic songs in our ears. The songs were all in Tamizh - which is the language of the South Indian state where I'm from - and would range from selections gleaned from the 1940's to the 1980's, from Bharathiyaar's torch songs about identity and pride in one's country, to some modern ones where the hero - some upright citizen such as a rare honest police officer or some long-suffering idealist teacher - would roam the verdant slopes of hill stations, extolling his matru-bhoomi (motherland) and his own passion for it. Of course, the hero's passion for the heroine (Indian films are rarely without them) would've been shot in another song (presented earlier perhaps), leaving our hero free to wring his hands alone, without worldly distractions.

So while the more patient among us children waited and endured a series of politicians shouting out their speeches (in the hope of retaining shaky votes) in what they thought was Sen-Thamizh (pure unadulterated Tamizh from the >1000 year old 'golden age' of Tamizh civilization), the naughty ones whined for breakfast, squirmed in their seats, and fashioned paper rockets from snatched programs sheets, aiming them at one another. When the state folk dancers came twirling about in their colorful sparkly clothes (karag-aattam) , or tiger costumes (puli-aattam), they'd settle down for a short spell of 20 minutes. Now, as a parent myself, I'd say that was praise-worthy. Of course, back then, children were expected to be seen and not heard, and so we were threatened with dire punishments if we made asses of ourselves - all the more so because other civil servants and their families were watching.

I, who once dreamed of joining the I.P.S. (Indian Police Service), looked forward to the marches of the military and police forces, and the displays of military arsenal. The police forces would march with their dogs - beautiful, healthy, resplendant, Alsatians (German Shepherds) - and they were a treat to watch. The dogs seemed to know this was an important occasion, and they accordingly strutted about, showing off their sleek shiny coats. They deserved to be pampered! I loved the mounted police guard with their smart, prancing horses, but most of all - the Drum and Bagpipe Regiment, wearing tartan (no idea which one's they might've been!), and leopard skins. Yes, Scottish tunes in 1980's post-colonial independent India, on an increasingly hot January day, that recalled the Highlands, shortbread, and the chilly mists of a faraway land...'A Hundred Pipers', 'Colonel Bogey' (my father's favorite), and 'Sons of the Brave'...but it was an Indian Gurkha tune the massed Army, Navy, and Air Force band would play while beating the retreat at Vijay Chowk in New Delhi...followed by William Monk's hymn 'Abide With Me', and the bugle call. I'm sure I don't speak for myself when I say this, but with these tunes my heart would soar, while the pride we felt as a nation swelled with the drums to a crescendo. Even today, while watching youtube videos of the Indian Army and the Indian Police Force during parades and marches, I am so overcome by emotion and a deep yearning for my country...that I must stop writing and compose myself. More often than not, I bawl and throw wads of used tissue around myself, thus ending a most uplifting moment in melodramatic denouement.

When the morning parade in Madras was done, we'd be whisked away to Fort St. George where a breakfast par exellence would be served by liveried waiters - pongal, idli-sambar-chutney, upma, masala dosai, kesari and I remember once, the then Chief Minister MGR's favorite, 'Basundhi' (a creamy, heavenly, condensed milk dessert, studded with crushed pistachio and almonds, delicately fragrant with a hint of saffron and cardamom). If one were a child, one would have one's cheeks pinched, have some aunties squeal "So cuuute!", and would then be thankfully forgotten amidst the knees of grownups making conversation, in their sandalwood and jasmine scented Kanjeevaram silk sarees, white veshtis (thin cotton sarongs of fine quality), and dark high-waisted pleated pants, till it was time to hurry home, with the warm breeze on one's face, watching a bustling cheerful sunny Madras through the wound down window. The day would be spent leisurely, with aunts, uncles, and cousins visiting, several games of cricket, and if one encountered really naughty kids, one occasionally heard a blasphemy of patriotism. The naughty ones would go - "Mere desh ki dharti (The soil of my homeland), Khul gayi teri dhoti (Your sarong just fell open)!", and the more recent - "Vande Mataram (A salute to my Motherland - in this case, India), Takla besharam (Shameless baldie)!" Just anything that rhymed and made the listener uncomfortable, really.

Posted below is a video of the massed bands beating the retreat during last year's Republic Day, in New Delhi. After so much reminiscence, when the time has come to honor my country at the end of this post, I sit bereft of words, silenced by awe. I bow my head low, close my eyes out of reverence, and salute with folded hands my India - "Maa, Tujhe Salaam. Jai Hind!"

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4dlfb7vG8Yo

And here is that excellent hymn 'Abide With Me':

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1SvvbUppbL0&feature=related

Thursday, January 19, 2012

A birthday in January

The best part about having a birthday in January is that it helps us deal with the Winter. The cold and wind chill don't matter much, and the snow is celebrated (with sledding, snowmen, snowball fights, snow castles and igloos - but that's for another post)...

The birthday in January also keeps Christmas and New Year in the air - the rush of the holiday season lingers on. We are still in 'hearty meals' and 'desserts' mode...And when the birthday finally arrives, we fall into it naturally, sans overdrive.

January, by the way, is my firstborn's birth month.

I remember how my son's  birth moment itself felt as though the entire world were reborn, his first roar, loud cries, and the way he squinted at me with his left eye shut, when the nurse brought him over to say hello. The anaesthesiologist said, "That's a very cute, chubby baby", before they took my son away to be cleaned and weighed. Darling 9 pounder! Of course, given his genes, it was only to be expected that his dear chubbiness would disappear as he outgrew toddlerhood. He is now a very active and curious (skinny) child who wears out his tennis coach with his constant chatter and non-stop nonsense, God bless him :).

As I was saying, the birthday in January keeps the holiday cheer going. We don't stop till we reach the middle of January, and if the official birthday party is held post the 20th, that's even better! This time, on the D-day itself, we called home some dear friends, for playtime and a vegetarian meal (given their food preference). And thus it happened that my son's favourite salmon was scheduled to be savoured a day earlier. The S.O. (significant other), who happens to be the first-mover of salmon enthusiasts in our home, bought the holy grail of salmon - Norwegian - the week before, and solemnly offered me the frozen, pre-cut steaks as the first step in a sacred ceremony.

So it was that I found myself mashing boiled potatoes and cauliflower with butter, cream, a pinch of nutmeg, salt and pepper to taste. I then diced 2 ripe avocados, and tossed the luscious, creamy, jade chunks with 1 finely chopped onion, 1 de-seeded and chopped tomato, a tablespoon of fresh chopped coriander, the juice of 1 lemon, 1 teaspoon cumin seeds, salt and pepper to taste.

I had marinated 1 lb. of salmon steaks (9 - each the size of half a palm) the entire afternoon in a mixture of 1/2 cup soy sauce, 1/2 cup brown sugar, 1 tbsp garlic, 3 tbsps oil, the juice of 1 lemon, and some pepper. While these were grilled by my S.O., I bunged a few Pillsbury biscuits in the oven, just in time for dinner. Our sons were thrilled with the result, and ate their meal like bear cubs, without a fuss :). That was compliment enough! Here's how it turned out...not bad at all...:


Tuesday, January 10, 2012

Initiation

There comes a time in everyone's life when a step forward needs to be taken. Sometimes it is a step sideways. Hopefully, it should not be a step backwards...but then those are also taken...in fact, they must be taken in order to move two steps forward (sometimes on another plane or level of consciousness), so I understand. Monks are doing it all the time - Italian (Catholic), Chinese (Buddhist), Indian (Jain), Turkish (Sufi). They deny themselves physical pleasures and practice restraint in order that they may attain higher spiritualism. We do the same in our own little ways, at intervals...

These steps occur in different stages of one's life. Sometimes, they mark the transition from one stage to the next. And then there are those instances when one is simply taking steps in circles, mulling over and not letting go (the past year has been so, for me).

Last week, I heard of someone who had taken such a step forward, by undergoing a mastectomy. She had been unsure of it for a while, and had finally brooked an inner change before the physical change was made.

How must it feel to lose a part of oneself that defined one's image more than did any other part of one's body, I wondered? I don't know, really...I haven't been in that particular situation, fortunately.

And what of childbirth? After all, isn't the act of giving birth the very first cleavage (no pun intended, given the immediate subject) within oneself? Of mother and child, a split between the one and what has for 9 months been an inseparable part of oneself?

This poem is for all women who have undergone surgery, of any kind, really. With every birth, with every cut of the knife, we all take steps forward. The role of motherhood is really the crystallization of the self-denial monks and seekers of spiritual truth devote themselves to. While mothers don't actively seek spiritual growth, they are forced to when a trusting fledgling soul is thrust into their arms, and their primal memory to nurture (at all costs) is kicked into life. In this epic journey of self-development, women often lose a sense of their own selves. We don't need a mastectomy to remind us that we lose so much of our selves while caring for others. These bodies of ours are mere shells compared to the fire that rages within us to fulfil our one superior purpose in life. If we have managed to raise our children into good, conscious, happy, and well balanced adults, then that is reward and success enough!

This poem is a reminder to women that our physical, mental, emotional selves often take a beating post the mid-20s. Whatever be the changes, losses, or gains (yes, there are gains, if we seek and grab them), we musn't forget to keep re-inventing ourselves as stronger, more adaptable, happier individuals. Don't forget your dreams, your wants, and don't forget to pat yourselves on the back at the end of each day.


A New Day
Adrift on a ripple of white sheets,
She surveyed the patch of sky
Contained by a picture window.
Yesterday, she had blinked into the light,
Naked.
Heart pounding.
Throat tight.
Supine.
Cold.
“Look at me,” the High Priestess had commanded,
“And keep counting…”
She had obeyed,
And after she had lost consciousness,
They had begun their rites,
Begloved,
Antiseptic.
She had had war paint slathered on,
Had been cut and pierced ,
Sewn even,
To mark the passage.
Now, she sat,
Tattooes pulsing,
Proudly wearing her scars.
Her heart soared through
A forest of fear,
Lifting with the mountains,
And broke out where the tree line
Met the snow, exultant.
She was an eagle,
A flash,
Triumphant.
She was a veteran,
Her badge of courage
A red, patched chest.
She was an Amazon,
Unfettered by her height, or weight, or age,
Or left breast,
Coursing ahead with her soul,
Guided only by the dazzling beauty
Of her iron will.
She waited,
Until the attendants had plucked away
The cords that bound her,
And unfurled a smile
To begin a new day.

Sunday, January 8, 2012

It has been a lovely weekend...!

Among the many things that I'm thankful for, I cherish a rejuvenating weekend. I don't mean one spent in indulgence that come at a cost (spa weekend/ retail therapy weekend/ dining out/ short winter holiday at a luxury inn/ etc, etc)...No. I refer to those gems of snatched hours amidst a busy life, to just savour one's family - laugh, play, cook, read, soar with music, watch movies, unwind with the significant other, and last but not least - to manage to squeeze in some chores! Did I mention I also did some coursework :)? Additionally, there were 2 birthday parties the boys had been invited to - one each, coincidentally. This gave them both opportunities to release some of their neverending energy, and got them into bed early on Saturday and Sunday. The younger one got lucky. He skipped along to our older son's party as well, was warmly welcomed, and found company as well! 

And yet I dug out this poem of sorts I'd written last month, and began tweaking it to post today. I can't say its done, and at the same time, I'm satisfied with it. For the present. Its mood is antithetical to the sunny contentment I held close today as I would a treasure...Maybe that's what this 'poem' is in essence -a mood. I wont say anymore. Read on...

Winter Moon
Reflecting, and watchful,
We stood,
Face to face,
In my father’s shed,
After school.
“Two Potawatomi on a hunt, contemplating”,
Like Mr. Mueller had said,
Buttoned tight,
Brushed by winter moonlight.
Wrestling one sense with another…
Or maybe,
It was thought against feeling.
What the body knows,
The mind ignores,
And bends to its will
The residue of desire,
Into an arc of obedience,
An unconsummated circle,
Just like a random halfmoon.

We traced the horizon of rapture
With our eyes,
And marked the ground
Where principle and conscience met,
Before calling off our flight
That frosty night.
Sentient, yet subdued,
We stood,
While a whistling wind drew near.
Its fingers stroked our faces,
Kissed our necks,
Our hair.
In my pocket,
My hand embraced the star
You once bade me safe to keep.
Its points cut deep
A new pattern
On my palm,
Just like a random halfmoon.